If you ever want to change something about yourself, your 20s are your best shot.
Q: You say we pick our families, not just our friends. What do you mean?
A: I work with clients who a lot of times are feeling sad or bad or mad about the families they grew up with. This is a real paradigm shift for a lot of twentysomethings, to shift from this idea that family is something you’re stuck with. It’s absolutely something you’re going to create. For the next 40 years, it is going to be about your spouse and your kids and not about your mom and your dad.
Q: You talk about the concept of “dating down.” Can you explain what you mean and why it’s harmful?
A: That’s a twentysomething sort of expression — dating below where you ought to be. I think of it as having low-criteria or no-criteria relationships. I think twentysomethings think their relationships don’t matter — that if they just want to have a good time with someone really good-looking or convenient, why not?”
Meg Jay, author of The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter — and How to Make the Most of Them Now.USATODAY